I found she(W) still (actually knew) has a cell phone that OM still has and its active on her account. So, tonight i told her when she can prove that phone is off, then we can talk again, but not until then. She says she can suspend the line and I said go ahead, but when its off or transfered to another phone we can talk again. I had to set that boundary. she swears she doesnt call it, changed her cell number, yada yada yada. NO WAY and this time I want proof. Im pissed off at myself for not doing this sooner. I let my emotions get in the way, opposite of detach. I do actually feel better to a point now
You did the right thing...SHE is the one who has to prove to you that she is true to her word...not the other way around. If she fights you at all or rebels against your taking this stance...this says volumes...you have been burned before...no need to get burned again. BUT if she does what you say...this speaks volumes also...
Let us know how it goes.
Shepherdess
Am I right in thinking if I dont hear anything about this other phone today, something is amiss?
I would at least question it...and not blow it it off...proof is what is needed.
Shepherdess
Her mother said she went to the cel place today to have the phone line turned off, or was supposed to. We will see I guess. Well, I know.
I posted about the whole phone thing, set aboundary, and broke it last night. I found out through her mom that she had the phone cut off yesterday. So, at about 11:30pm i texted her, simple question, did you take care of the phone? I got a very non chalant text back, I havent felt good all day im in bed now. That got me upset. She knows how important the phone thing was/is and i think she playing games. If the shoe was on the other foot, id of called after i left the cel phone store
worried1:
Please go to the More on Detaching thread where I posted some more from the LIVE STRONG web site...please take a look at Step 11 Letting Go.
Shepherdess
